FREE TOOLS FOR SURVIVORS
You Don't Have to Figure This Out in Your Head
When something feels wrong in a relationship, it can be difficult to separate one bad moment from a pattern of abuse. Memory gets questioned. Events blur together. Conversations get rewritten. Sometimes you know something is wrong long before you know what to call it.
Brotherhood Institute provides free tools designed to help you understand what is happening, recognize patterns, document what matters, and prepare for what comes next.
You don't have to use every tool. Start with the one that makes sense for where you are right now.
No paywalls. No judgment. Survivor-Built.
GUIDED ASSESSMENTS
Not Sure If It's Abuse? Start Here.
Abuse is not always obvious, especially when you are living through it. Control can look like concern. Financial abuse can look like someone simply handling the money. Gaslighting can leave you wondering whether the problem is actually you.
Our guided assessments ask straightforward questions about specific behaviors and patterns. They are not diagnoses, and they will not tell you what decision to make. They are designed to help you look at your situation more objectively and recognize behaviors you may have been dismissing or struggling to name.
Public • No account required • Results are not saved
ABUSE LOG
When It Happens, Keep the Receipts.
When incidents happen repeatedly, individual events can become difficult to remember clearly. An argument from three weeks ago gets mixed up with one from yesterday. Details disappear. Someone denies what happened, and eventually you may start questioning your own memory.
The Abuse Log gives you a private place to document incidents while the details are still fresh. Record what happened, when it happened, what was said or done, and the information you believe matters.
The purpose isn't to convince you that you're being abused. It's to give you a clearer record of what you have actually experienced.
Free account required • Private • Built for ongoing documentation
ABUSE TRACKER
Stop Looking at Incidents One at a Time.
One terrible day can be easy to dismiss. So can the next one.
But when you put those days on a calendar, something different can happen. The pattern becomes visible.
The Abuse Tracker gives you a visual way to track incidents over time and see how frequently concerning behavior is occurring. Instead of relying entirely on memory, you can step back and look at the bigger picture.
It can help answer a surprisingly difficult question:
How often is this actually happening?
Free account required • Private • Visual incident tracking
BREAK THE SILENCE
You Know You Need to Talk. You Don't Know How to Start.
Talking about abuse can be difficult even when you trust the person you're talking to. You may not know where to begin. You may worry that you won't explain it correctly, that you'll forget something important, or that you'll shut down when the conversation becomes uncomfortable.
Break the Silence helps you organize your thoughts before that conversation happens.
It walks you through questions designed to help you identify what you want to say, what has been happening, what you need the other person to understand, and what kind of help you may be looking for.
You don't have to improvise one of the hardest conversations you may ever have.
Free account required • Private • Conversation preparation
Different Tools. Different Jobs.
Brotherhood Institute's tools were built around the same process we use throughout the site:
SEE IT → NAME IT → KEEP THE RECEIPTS → TAKE ACTION
Guided Assessments can help you recognize behaviors you may have overlooked or dismissed.
Brotherhood's educational resources help you understand those behaviors and put names to what is happening.
The Abuse Log and Abuse Tracker help you document incidents and see patterns over time.
Break the Silence helps you organize your thoughts and prepare to talk to someone when you're ready.
You don't have to complete every step today, and you don't have to use every tool.
Use what helps you where you are right now.