ABOUT THE FOUNDER OF BROTHERHOOD INSTITUTE
I’m a male immigrant survivor of domestic violence, and I’m currently applying for protection under the VAWA humanitarian law. What I went through left scars — but silence is no longer an option. I’m sharing my story not for sympathy, but to make space for other men like me to speak up, heal, and rebuild.
my story
For over 20 years, I carried a truth I was too ashamed to say out loud.
I came to the United States as a tourist, like I had many times before — but this time, I fell into the hands of someone who weaponized love against me. What began as affection turned into control: gaslighting, financial exploitation, threats to report me to immigration, and complete isolation from my family.
I stayed because I loved her.
I stayed because I thought I could fix it.
I stayed because I believed no one would believe me.
But it was abuse — and it nearly cost me my life.
The damage went deeper than I admitted:
A stress-induced stroke that wiped out my savings.
Years of depression that made every day feel like survival.
No stable work because of my immigration status.
A constant fear of losing everything I built.
Even then, I refused to disappear. I kept paying taxes. I volunteered at a domestic violence shelter. I kept my record clean. I held on to integrity when it would’ve been easier to give up.
why i'm speaking out
Last year, I learned about VAWA, a visa that protects abused spouses — including men. For the first time, I saw a legal path to freedom and safety.
This isn’t about revenge. It’s about:
Safety after decades of fear.
Rebuilding a life I’m proud of.
Helping other men recognize and escape abuse before it destroys them.
That’s why I founded Brotherhood Institute HQ — to build tools, resources, and a voice for men who feel unseen.
what i am Fighting for
My VAWA case is my final step toward freedom — not just legally, but emotionally.
Every bit of support helps me keep going, and helps me keep this mission alive.
If you’re able to help, you’ll find a link to my GoFundMe campaign at the bottom of this page.
Your support will:
Cover the legal fees to secure my status.
Expand the Brotherhood Institute’s outreach.
Prove that male survivors deserve the same protection and respect as anyone else.
Every share, donation, or word of encouragement moves me closer to safety — and helps ensure no man has to suffer in silence again.
GoFundMe
to help me stay free
disclaimer
I’m still in the process of applying for VAWA. Although most humanitarian visa fees are waived, the cost of legal representation is pretty high. You can read my full story above and find the fundraiser link if you wish to support my case.
