I’m a male immigrant survivor applying for VAWA — and I need your support to adjust my status and stay safe. What I went through left scars, but silence isn’t an option anymore. I’m sharing this not for sympathy, but to make space for other men like me to speak up. Read my story. Stand with me.
DISCLAIMER:
I am still in the process of applying for VAWA, unfortunately even though most of the fees are waived for Humanitarian Visas, the cost of Legal Representation is pretty high for me right now. Read my story, you will find a link to my fundraiser at the bottom of this page if you want to help me.
For over 20 years, I carried a story I was too ashamed to tell.
I came to the U.S. as a tourist, like I had many times before—but this time, I fell into the hands of someone who weaponized love against me. What began as affection became control: gaslighting, financial exploitation, threats to report me to immigration, and isolation from my family.
I stayed because I was in love as never before. I stayed because I believed my relationship was worth keep fighting for. Because I thought no one would believe me. Because I thought “it wasn’t that bad…”
But it was.
The abuse left me with:
- A stroke, from relentless anxiety. (and a big-ass bill that took all my savings and even more!)
- Years of depression that made work feel impossible (though I worked anyway).
- No stable job due to my immigration status.
- A life half-lived, haunted by fear and distrust.
Yet I refused to let it define me. I integrated into society. I paid taxes every single year. Volunteered at a shelter for abuse victims. I maintained a clean record. Clung to integrity when it would’ve been easier to disappear.
Why I’m Sharing This Now
Last year, I learned about VAWA,, a visa for abuse survivors that protects men too. For the first time, I saw a path to freedom: not just legally, but emotionally and spiritually.
This isn’t about revenge. It’s about:
- Safety after decades of fear.
- Rebuilding a life I’m proud of.
- Helping other men recognize and escape abuse.
My VAWA application is my final step toward freedom. If you’re able, please support my Gofundme campaign. Your generosity will help me:
- Cover legal fees to secure my status.
- Grow the Brotherhood Institute’s outreach.
- Ensure no man has to suffer in silence like I did.
Every share, donation, or word of encouragement brings me closer to the future I’ve fought for, and lets me keep fighting for others.
