If you’re a man experiencing abuse, the world doesn’t make it easy to ask for help. You might feel embarrassed, dismissed, or unsure what’s happening. I have been there and I know how difficult it can be.
Let’s be clear: you have the right to be safe. You have the right to be respected. And yes — real help for male victims of domestic abuse exists.
Common Ways Men Experience Abuse
Men can be victims of:
- Emotional abuse: Name-calling, humiliation, threats, guilt-tripping
- Verbal attacks: Yelling, public embarrassment, insults about masculinity
- Financial control: She controls your income, access to money, or uses child support as leverage
- Legal manipulation: Threats to call police, make false accusations, or destroy your reputation
These are not isolated incidents. When they form a pattern — it’s abuse.
What Stops Men from Getting Help?
- “No one will believe me.”
- “She’ll turn the system against me.”
- “I don’t want to seem weak.”
We get it. Most services are designed with women in mind. But that doesn’t mean you’re alone. You just need a space that speaks your language — and takes your safety seriously.
Brotherhood Institute Can Help
We’ve built tools for male survivors by listening to them. All of our content and even our tools are available FOR FREE for everyone. Money should never be the reason you don’t receive the help you need.
Encrypted Abuse Log — record everything safely, securely, and privately
Red Flag Quizzes — check your relationship without judgment
Resource Guides — legal rights, boundaries, emotional recovery
Content for Men — written with your reality in mind
You don’t have to explain yourself to someone who doesn’t get it. You can start quietly. And start today.
Where Else to Turn
Need immediate support?
- Domestic Abuse Helpline for Men and Women (US): 888-743-5754
- Mankind Initiative (UK): 01823 334244
- MensLine Australia: 1300 78 99 78
- More Resources: Visit our Get Help Now page
You can also talk to a therapist, lawyer, or trusted friend. Just make sure they’re safe and trauma-informed.
Ready to Take the First Step?
You’re not imagining things. You’re not weak. And you’re not the only one.
The most powerful thing you can do right now? Protect your truth.
Start building your record. Educate yourself. Then move forward, one step at a time.