Dating someone Abusive

Recognizing the signs of abuse can be tricky at first but you can do it with a little help. If you are here, you might have noticed some weird behaviors… lets make sure you are safe!

Early Signs Matter

You don’t wait for a fire to confirm there’s smoke

What To Watch

• Isolation disguised as exclusivity
• Jealousy framed as love
• Financial dependence encouraged early
• Guilt used to control your choices
• Threats disguised as emotional vulnerability

What Men Miss

You tell yourself:

“It’s not that serious.”
“She just cares.”
“I can handle it.”

Patterns don’t start loud.

They start subtle.

What To Do

Spot it.
Name it.
Record it.

If it escalates, you’ll see it.

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