Phone Safety: Protect Yourself on Mobile
Phone Safety: Your phone is the most dangerous device in your life. It holds everything. Your calls. Your texts. Your emails. Your search history. Your location. Your photos.
Your phone is the most dangerous device in your life.
It holds everything. Your calls. Your texts. Your emails. Your search history. Your location. Your photos. And if your abuser has access to it, they know everything about you.
This guide will show you how to protect yourself on your phone. Not just from viruses, but from someone who wants to use your own device against you.
THE THREAT:
WHAT THEY MIGHT BE LOOKING FOR
If your abuser has access to your phone, they could be checking:
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Your text messages (who you're talking to)
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Your call history (who you've been calling)
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Your browser history (what you've been looking up)
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Your email accounts (what you've been reading and writing)
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Your photos and videos (evidence you've taken)
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Your location (where you've been)
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Your apps (what you're using)
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Your social media (who you're talking to)
Your abuser might have installed tracking software. They might just be picking up your phone while you're asleep. Either way, you need to assume they are watching.
YOUR OPTIONS:
HOW TO PROTECT YOURSELF
You have a few choices. Pick the one that works best for your situation.
Option 1: Use a Secure Email App
Create a new email account your abuser doesn't know about. Use it only for abuse-related communication. Install a secure email app on your phone for this account.
Option 2: Use Encrypted Messaging Apps
If you need to communicate with someone securely, use an encrypted messaging app. Signal and WhatsApp are both good options. But remember: if your abuser has your phone unlocked, they can read everything anyway.
Option 3: Use a Password Manager
Use a password manager to store your passwords securely. This way, they can't easily access your accounts.
Option 4: Use a Different Device
If you can access a device your abuser never touches... a work phone, a friend's phone, a library computer, use that for your most sensitive research.
Option 5: Set Up a Second Phone Number
Use a free app like TextNow or Google Voice to get a second phone number. Use this number only for abuse-related communication.
Option 6: Turn Off Location Sharing
Your phone tracks your location constantly. Turn off location services for apps that don't need it.
Check your installed apps that have access to your location
RECOMMENDED SOLUTION:
PROTON MAIL + SIGNAL
Here's what I recommend for most people dealing with domestic violence and abuse.
Use the Proton Mail app for all abuse-related emails. It's encrypted and secure.
Use Signal for encrypted messaging. It's the most secure messaging app available.
Turn off location sharing. Your abuser doesn't need to know where you are.
Lock your phone with a strong PIN or password. And don't use a pattern lock, they're too easy to guess.
HOW TO SET IT UP
Step 1: Secure Your Phone with a Strong Lock
Set a Strong PIN or Password
On Android:
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Go to Settings → Security & Privacy → Screen Lock
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Choose "PIN" or "Password"
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Set something your abuser won't guess
On iPhone:
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Go to Settings → Face ID & Passcode (or Touch ID & Passcode)
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Click "Turn Passcode On"
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Set a 6-digit PIN or alphanumeric password
Enable Two-Factor Authentication (2FA)
If your phone supports it, enable two-factor authentication. This means even if your abuser has your password, they can't access your accounts without your phone.
Step 2: Set Up Proton Mail
Proton Mail is available as an app for both Android and iPhone.
On Android:
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Open the Google Play Store
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Search for "Proton Mail"
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Tap "Install"
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Log in to your existing Proton account or create a new one
On iPhone:
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Open the App Store
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Search for "Proton Mail"
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Tap "Get"
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Log in to your existing Proton account or create a new one
Never save your password in the app. Always log in and out. Your abuser might try to open the app if they get hold of your phone.
Step 3: Set Up Signal for Secure Messaging
Signal is a free, encrypted messaging app. It's widely regarded as the most secure messaging app available. If you need to communicate with someone about your situation, use Signal.
On Android:
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Open the Google Play Store
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Search for "Signal"
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Tap "Install"
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Follow the setup instructions (verify your phone number)
On iPhone:
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Open the App Store
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Search for "Signal"
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Tap "Get"
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Follow the setup instructions (verify your phone number)
Important: When you set up Signal, enable the "Screen Lock" feature. This adds an extra layer of security even if your phone is unlocked.
How to enable Screen Lock on Signal:
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Open Signal → Tap your profile picture
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Go to "Privacy"
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Enable "Screen Lock"
Step 4: Turn Off Location Tracking
On Android:
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Go to Settings → Location
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Toggle "Use Location" off, or
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Tap "App permissions" and turn off location for apps that don't need it
On iPhone:
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Go to Settings → Privacy → Location Services
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Toggle "Location Services" off, or
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Review which apps have access and change permissions
Be aware: If you have a phone sharing app like Find My iPhone or Find My Device enabled, your abuser might still be able to track you through that. Consider whether you need to disable these.
Step 5: Manage Your Apps
Check for Suspicious Apps
Look through your installed apps for anything you don't recognize. If you find something suspicious, look it up online. If it's tracking software, you'll need to decide how to handle it.
Use a Secure Browser
Use your phone's private browser mode the same way you would on a computer. On Android, use Chrome's Incognito mode. On iPhone, use Safari's Private Browsing.
How to use Chrome Incognito on Android/iPhone:
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Open Chrome
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Tap the three dots (or three lines)
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Select "New Incognito Tab"
How to use Safari Private Browsing on iPhone:
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Open Safari
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Tap the tabs icon (two squares)
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Swipe left to go to "Private"
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Tap "Done"
EXTRA TIPS FOR PHONE SAFETY
Never Leave Your Phone Unlocked
If you're not holding it, lock it. Every time. Your abuser can't read what's not accessible.
Don't Save Sensitive Information on Your Phone
Don't save passwords, notes, or documents on your phone unless they're encrypted. Use Proton Drive for storage, and only access it when you're alone.
Be Careful with Voice Assistants
If you have a voice assistant (like Siri or Google Assistant), your abuser might be able to access your information through voice commands when you're not around. Consider turning off voice activation.
Check Your Phone Settings
Review your phone's privacy settings periodically. Make sure you're not sharing data you don't want to share.
What to Do If You're Found Out
If she discovers what you've been doing, prioritize your safety immediately. Plan where you can go, who you can call, and what you'll do if you need to leave quickly. Your safety comes first.
Disclaimer
This guide is for educational purposes only. No security measure is 100% effective. The safest way to protect your information is to use a device she cannot access. If you are in immediate danger, call emergency services.
