leaving abuse requires preparation
Emotions along are not enough
Planning gives you control
FRAMEWORK
Spot it
Recognize abuse situations and patterns
Name it
Understand you must accept abuse is happening before you accept you don't need to be victim
Record it
Keeping track of the abuse can give you a better understanding on how bad the relationship has become and it can help you accept that it was not "a one time incident" but a pattern that will not change on it own.
File it
Keeping evidence of abuse can help you when dealing with any type of legal issues that might arise after a relationship is over. Whenever possible, it is important to keep any evidence that will help your case.
what it looks like
Men preparing to leave often face:
- Escalating control and intimidation
- Financial threats
- Emotional manipulation or guilt
- Attempts to isolate you further
- Sudden attempts to regain cotrol
Prepare your evidence file first
Documentation strengthens your position
before, during and after leaving